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Beginner’s guide to BDSM

What is BDSM?

• Roles

• Misconceptions 

• Power Exchange

What can be gained from participating in BDSM activities?

• Role Playing

How do we engage in BDSM experiences?

• Introducing the idea to your partner 

• Talk about it

How do we start?

• Communication

• Safe words

• Negotiations & Limits

Scenes and Props

• Activities

• Tools & Toys

• Fantasies

• Role Play

• Talk Play

• Rewards & Punishments

Bondage & Restraints

Corporal Punishment

• Spanking, Slapping, Whipping

Safety

Bondage is about restraining someone or tying them up. They can be tied to something or can simply have their limbs restrained. The Submissive may be fully restrained or have partial movement depending on the scene and the agreement between the parties, as well as how you wish the scene to evolve.

The arousal in bondage often comes from the fantasy or act of being physically restrained or tied up. For many Submissives, bondage is associated with a desire to give up control to another and removes elements of guilt because they cannot control what is happening to them.

When experimenting with bondage, there are obvious safety factors to consider, including restricted blood flow, breathing and general health constraints.

Restraints by JT's Stockroom

For couples engaging in this activity for the first time, it is recommended that you use soft restraints, such as scarves, ties, belts, etc and ensure that knots can be easily undone as, in most cases; the Submissive has no intention of escaping!

For the more committed participants, there is a broad range of restraint types available from our specialist stores. These types of restraints include:

One word of warning, make sure you get more than one set of keys!

Obviously, for those wanting to be restrained even further, there are all sorts of ropes available from specialist stores, made from material that will not damage your skin – DO NOT use sash cords, wires or silk scarves, as these can be extremely dangerous; they may pinch nerves, cut off circulation or even cut the skin.

Care should be taken when tying knots to ensure that the captive can be easily released. You must also ensure that you do not restrict blood flow or breathing for any length of time. We do NOT recommend this activity to anyone who has not researched this in detail, as there are serious risks if this is not done properly that include: fainting, nerve or tendon damage, dislocated joints and strangulation.

Furthermore, many people require immediate release following an orgasm in order to bring themselves down and regain contact with their partners…struggling for half an hour with a particularly tricky knot can certainly kill the moment!